This morning I grabbed my favorite mug. The one that says Wake up and be happy. It’s simple, but it always makes me pause. Happiness doesn’t magically appear when I open my eyes. I’ve learned that I must choose happiness on purpose.
And for a long time, I wasn’t choosing it. I was chasing it.
When Achievements Don’t Feel Like You Thought They Would
One of the clearest examples for me was when I completed a two‑year rotational leadership development program. It was a huge accomplishment. I had worked hard, pushed myself, and sacrificed a lot to get through it. Everyone around me was proud. I was supposed to feel proud too.
And I did…kind of.
But I also remember standing there on the final day. I had my certificate in hand and was smiling for photos… and yet, I felt this unexpected emptiness. Not because the program wasn’t valuable, but because of what it had cost me.
To finish it, I had sacrificed time, presence, and moments with my family that I couldn’t get back. I was so focused on achieving the goal. I didn’t realize how disconnected I had become from the people who mattered most to me.
I thought completing the program would fill me up. Instead, it made me realize how easy it is to chase accomplishments. They often look good but don’t actually feed your life.
That moment was a wake‑up call. It forced me to rethink what I was pursuing and why.
The Shift: From Chasing Happiness to Creating It
After that, I started asking myself different questions:
- What actually matters to me
- What life feels meaningful
- What success looks like when I’m not trying to impress anyone
I started paying attention to the things that brought me peace instead of pressure. I let go of goals that didn’t fit anymore. I stopped trying to earn happiness and started building it from the inside out.
And honestly, life feels different when you’re not performing for anyone.
What Alignment Looks Like in Real Life
For me, alignment has looked like:
- Slowing down instead of constantly pushing
- Creating work that reflects my values
- Choosing rest without guilt
- Saying no without over explaining
- Making decisions based on peace, not pressure
It’s not flashy. It’s not loud. But it’s real. And it’s sustainable.
A New Way to Wake Up
Now, when I see that mug in the morning, it’s not just decor. It’s a reminder that happiness isn’t something I have to chase anymore. It’s something I choose by living in alignment with who I am and what I value.
And that choice is available every single day.
Your Turn: Let’s Talk About You
If you’ve been chasing happiness through achievements, titles, or other people’s expectations, I want you to know you’re not alone. And you’re not stuck.
Here’s your invitation to pause and check in with yourself:
- Does this goal still feel right
- Am I doing this for me
- Is this path bringing me peace
If the answer is no, you’re allowed to pivot. You’re allowed to redefine success. You’re allowed to choose a life that feels good on the inside.
Wake up and be happy—not because everything is perfect, but because you’re choosing alignment over achievement.
Choosing Happiness From The Inside Out
As you move through the rest of your day, I hope you pause and give yourself permission to check in with what actually matters to you. Focus on the version of you that simply wants to feel whole, not the version that performs, produces, or proves. You don’t have to wait for the next accomplishment to feel grounded. You don’t have to earn your way into joy. You don’t have to keep carrying goals that no longer fit the life you want to live.
You get to choose differently now.
If something in your life feels out of alignment, let this be your reminder that you’re allowed to shift. You’re allowed to reclaim your time, your presence, and your peace. You’re allowed to build a life that reflects your values, not anyone else’s expectations.
And tomorrow morning, when you wake up, I hope you choose happiness not as a performance, but as a practice. Not as a finish line, but as a way of living that starts from within.
You deserve a life that feels like yours.
With gratitude,
Erneshia Michelle
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